Monday, March 26, 2012

nothing like facebookish flattery

practice flattery. one can only get better at it. 
flatterers adjust to the flatteree's wishes.
be foxy, smell the needy. the more one gives, the more they crave. 
have your thumbs up rEaDy. thumbs up is the nEw form of dutiful dEcEpTiOn.

like capitalism, thumbs up bestows need & create more needs. 
butter assuages bitterness.

don't antagonize w. people. flAttErY sells!
praise lAvIsHly, it always pays back.


SeanBari said...

Facebook: 500 million users, a way to connect with friends and family AND ANOTHER EXAMPLE OF CORPORATE INTEREST! How could someone possibly argue in favor of this claim? The perfect question to ask is HOW did Facebook get so many users, so fast? Provided, this entity allowed people to connect with peers like never before: through the use of media and worthless status updates. YET, this intrigued 500 million people to join?!?! I don't think so. Rather, Facebook has given itself a face of flattery towards its users. For example, as described in the post, you can only "Like" someone's post. WHY not have the option to dislike or show the middle finger towards someone's ideas? The answer is simple: Facebook is the crack dealer of the internet; they seek to make their users happy, while gaining profit from their addiction to happiness. For example, we rarely recognize the major advertisements on the side of each Facebook page. If there was a dislike button on Facebook, we would see the domino effect in play: users would dwindle on the site, advertisements would slowly dissapear AND we would never see that "Google announced it will purchase popular social network Facebook in a cash and stock deal valued at $25 billion." Wake up people, Facebook is no better than every other business entity.. Cash is king!

Anonymous said...

hahahaha, this is funny.

Anonymous said...

We "all" (500 million plus users) like the ease of carrying out dreams of carefree infantilization with each other. It is meant to connect people, but the more people are "connected" through digital media, the more disconnected we are from the experience around us. Whenever you are in public sit somewhere without a handy dandy phone or ipod. You will realize how many common it is for people to avoid eye contact with you at any cost by looking down at their phones at the exact moment eye contact Would have happened. It is such a strange defense mechanism to reality.
-Daniella Lopez

atRifF said...

the more people are "connected" through digital media, the more disconnected we are from the experience around us.

agree daniella.

Addys said...

Good Evening Prof. Triff

I love this post for it is something we live with every day. The reality is that we have become addicted to Facebook, I mean, who doesn’t have a Facebook nowadays? Facebook is like diary for most of the users, they post their everyday moves, their thoughts, their concerns, anger, and even where they are. That “check in” button has become the favorite for many. People love to show others how cool they are by letting them now they go out a lot, it’s funny but it’s the truth. Some people say, (my parent’s included), that Facebook is the perfect target for sexual harassers, it makes it easier for them when we accept them as friends, because the more friends we have the cooler we are, right?
We are even “cooler” when we post a status and more than ten people like it (LOL). It is funny when you ask a question and people just like it, what is that supposed to mean? Am I supposed to read their thoughts? Flattery is the bomb these days, people just want to be cool and like whatever they see just for the sake of it. I can assure you that half of the “likes” are automatic responses, it is like breathing, isn’t that funny?
It’s even funnier when they use shortcuts like smh. I might sound old fashioned and out of this world but just the other day, I found out that it stands for “shaking my head.”
Thank you

JessicaFernandez said...

The mere fact that society has accepts and encourages one to accept or deny something on a social media site without giving reason or further thought on why one actually pushes a “like” button on a status or picture is absurd. Absurd, not in the sense of foolish or abstract, but in the sense that what one user places on Facebook has to be accepted and/or marked as noticed by others, allows no room for opposition or further thought on what the originally user first posted.

If instant messaging had not already put a damper on human to human interaction, in my opinion, Facebook has added the cherry on top of the tall sundae and has made us, myself included, numb – numb and incapable of actually holding a conversation with another individual on the perspective they took on the picture they posted or what was interpreted from the semi-cynical/venting/true quote they posted.

I firmly stand by my choice of being annoying and sending extremely long text all spelled out and with proper English and even the much dreadful call I place when I am going to answer a text I received, but to me communication –true emotion rich communication- is important and valuable. That I am guilty of “Liking” things, yes I am, but that I am even more guilty of commenting paragraph long comments that get my friends upset and makes them ramble for hours – to that I answer YES I AM!

Words make the world go round: Real written and spoken words that have substance, meaning, and evidence…make the world connect, communicate and learn.

Elizabeth Timana said...

I believe facebook is the new way of interacting. To me, its just a different way of communicating if you think how humans will communicate 200 years from now. Yes facebook might involve politics and the media but in the end a lot of people have it. Theres no more close interaction, we are all sucked in into texting and moving on with our activities. I rarely use facebook so im not a proponent, but i do believe its part of a modern world. How many kids play with the neighbors kids out in the street anymore? Instead they go to a friends house 20 minutes away to play in the backyard, with the friend they chat on facebook with. Does anybody really know everyone in their neighborhood anymore? Cmon these are things that use to be there in the past but things change, we get cars and we get technology. We rarely interact with friends because they dont live next to us like they use to. We flatter ourselves too much either way to gain favor. Friendships don't seem necessary anymore, it seems more like a skill you learn now to gain a certain preference or obtain something in return. Humans are learning to become more isolated independent individuals and to live their lives with a very small close circle of friends and many acquaintances that can benefit you in the future. We are becoming old-fashioned in a sense and the children of the future are going to prove it to us.

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Anonymous said...

Facebook is a social networking site where people have the right to express what they feel. It is true that they are problems with flattery on facebook. For example, some people compete with each other concerning the number of friends that they have. Personally, I feel this is childish and stupid because the amount of friends on facebook does not determine the amount of happiness a person has. Some people become depressed over a simple rejection on facebook. “Aw, this person does not want to be my friend.” In this sense, I feel that facebook is a good tool for a person to grow up. If a person does not want to be your friend on facebook, why waste your time complaining over the fact that the person rejected your friend request? On the other hand, facebook only has the option to like comments and this does not allow the individual to grow up because that is not how the real world works. Certain young people, especially, need to realize that not everyone is going to be your friend. Perhaps, it would be interesting to see what happens if facebook adds a dislike button, but it would also be annoying to see many people arguing every five seconds. -Priscilla Suarez

Fiama Reyes said...

Let’s imagine for a minute that facebook launches a dislike button. Many users such as music bands, celebrities, advertisers and businesses would never want their post to be disliked. While many users love the idea of Facebook adding a dislike button. While there are posts where the dislike button could be used to express sympathy or disagreement, I would think that the vas majority of its users will be disliking posts and making them ambiguously negative which can discourage the poster. For the “disliker” it might be a game, but for the recipient it might feel critical or judgmental. People can express a wide array of responses in comments, including criticism and negativity, and also sympathy and commiseration. But by taking the negative aspect of these comments and cementing it as a prominent interaction, Facebook would be encouraging and facilitating much more negativity than I think users want flowing through their online social community. Why would anyone want to share something that is disliked?

Anonymous said...

I would not mind the presence of a thumbs down icon, but I do not mind its absence either. I have a facebook account and occasionally like what my friends post. I press the thumbs up icon under others’ post when I like or agree with what they post. If one really likes someone else’s post, is liking flattery? By liking something, one shows support or approval. If one dislikes what someone else’s post, why not ignoring it? For my part, I only like when I agree or like. If I disagree, I sometimes give my opinion or ignore it. I think if one disagrees it is better to say what one thinks instead of just thumbs down the opinion of someone else (reason why I do not mind the absence of a thumbs down icon). However, if you are agreeing or supporting, I do not think further explanation is needed which is what I think the thumbs up icon is used for. A thumbs down icon would have been important when rating product, but if one really likes a product, I do not think it is flattery. By rating a product, consumers have a better idea of what they are purchasing and producers are aware of whether or not their products are satisfactory. If the thumbs up icon is used for other purposes, like to support one that wants to show popularity, that can be seen as flattery, but not all thumbs up are for this purpose.

Anonymous said...

Flattery doesn’t make human interaction better whatsoever. Compliments and attention are both things we desire as human beings, used to being social creatures and fighting for the spotlight so that we can be the center of everything. Flattery, however, has the connotation of something false, maybe even a little sycophantic. When you flatter someone you’re not being honest about what you are praising them for, you are just saying something empty to get them to like you, or to give the false impression to others that you like them. Perhaps that’s all everything is these days, especially on Facebook. You have a thousand friends, three regularly comment on your timeline, and maybe ten comments on your pictures, but one hundred or two hundred rush to tell you “Happy Birthday! :)” and ten or twenty like funny statuses. Sometimes, it feels as if they are around only when you amuse them, or they are present only to share your successes. They are not your real friends, and they are generally people you’ve had minimal interaction with, some old elementary or middle school peers, others you might have met at a party at a friend’s house in a weekend at Gainesville or Tallahassee. Even though interaction has changed, as many of my classmates have discussed, it’s not a *better* form of interaction, it’s simply the far-fetched communication between people that don’t really know each other and don’t really want to get to know each other, they just want attention. How many times have we seen “friends” posting inappropriate statuses to get comments and likes? At least in my news feed, I can count on the pathological liar, the desperate ex-girlfriend, and the drama queen always having something to say. People are very self-absorbed these days, and perhaps Facebook, Twitter, Tumblr, and 9GAG are only fueling the fire. These websites are essentially a popularity contest of who gets the most re-blogs, likes, loves, re-tweets, and whatever else they have these days.

In the end, it’s pathetic. It’s as if the aforementioned is a value of success, or a standard of some kind. People forget, however, that the amount of friends or likes doesn’t determine the quality of the person you are.

(Nora Adriana Arce)

Kenny Ann said...

Facebook is a site for people for individuals to socialize with each other. I always wonder why Facebook only gives you the option to put positive respond after everything others are saying. After I realized that this is a site for fellowshipping. I think if someone wants to disagree with your post, that person can just “inbox” you the comment if he or she does not want to put that in public or that person can just comment on that post to: you know what I disagree with you or what you are saying is really stupid. However, the thing that I do not understand is why Facebook has all the good status such as single, in a relationship, married, they even have it is complicated status, but they do not have” just get dumped status.” I almost put a “LOL” after what I just wrote. I think is acceptable to write a word in abbreviation on facebook, but what bothers me is when someone is talking to you and instead of laughing that person says “LOL”. We write LOL because we are not face to face, so in order to show you that what you said is funny, we write LOL. It seems like in the future we all are going to speak alien such as “ily ttyl.”

Linda said...

I do believe that if Facebook launches a dislike button, many people will approve of it. Many people have already made "fan pages" and "groups" to persuade the Facebook staff to come up with a dislike button. I guess a dislike button will cause controversy or bring fights, therefore they would just like to stick to the "like" button. Facebook is a place to practice flattery. Why is it that we can only like someone's link, status or photo without having the option to dislike it. Facebook has only one option available which is that of liking everything your friends post up. It's like YouTube. Youtube now has "thumps up", but unlike facebook, it also has a "thumbs down". The silly thing about Youtube is that if you get too many thumbs down, your comment will be removed. This is also implying what Facebook implies, which is that we should only like what people have to say.

Anonymous said...

I think it is always interesting to see how people are concerned with approval. Deep inside most of us are traumatized for experiences that happened during our youth. Perhaps we were humiliated at some point in our lives and still remember the yucky feeling of being a laughing stock. The fact is that people love gossip! It sells on a daily basis and it is what people enjoy talking about. Everything is a comparison to one another and it is always a competition. The thumbs button is an iconic symbol that has been introduced mainly in our generation. It does symbolize approval and when used to judge or rate pictures, works of art, comments, and posts it can lead to disaster. The truth is that we have to learn to individually take criticism with a smile, humbly knowing that there is always room for improvement. Always remembering that we have much good to celebrate within ourselves. Criticism needs to be identified to be different to when people hate on someone or are trying to bully someone. I personally dont care what people usually have to say, but I know that not everyone in the world is the same way so it is important to raise awareness. As good as the thumb up icon is, it can also be used for bullying and I think that is the real issue.
(This is Javier Figueras)

sonia said...

Facebook claims to be the perfect way to conect with people but just as the other thousands of social networks IT IS NOT! and the main reason is that it only serves as a mask to who we really are. We only show what we want others to see, and in return, they can only 'like it'. True human interactions should and usually do develop in a very different way; we often see what's wrong with the other person and based on that we decide whether we want to deal with them (be friends) or not. This media offers a limited gateway of communication, yet it makes us believe that we are completely free, it reminds me of the discussion we had in class about whether our desires are really ours... Anyhow, we can still make it ours by trying to be honest with the friends we have, only befriend people that we know in real life or we could also stop using it altogether.

Anonymous said...

A social network such as Facebook was made to connect people and make friends from different parts of the world. In my opinion, electronic media communication with other individuals is not the correct way to stablish a friendship. Humans need to interact and be able to express feelings and opinions. On the other hand, Facebook creates an environment in which everything seems to be happy and perfect. However, life and frienship is not created that way. Human beings have different points of view, principles, etc that might get to a disagreement but at the end that makes you understand the other person better and built a stronger friendship. This is why I believe everything in Facebook is fake since people are limited to express themselves and critique something, which I believe is very important in life because it arises new ideas

Eduardo Guizan.

Anggie Ferrer said...

Facebook as it was intended, is a networking site to keep in contact with friends and share thoughts as well as pictures. However, some users have turned it into a personal diary where they share EVERY single move they make (even personal issues that their Facebook friends or acquaintances shouldn’t have to be aware of) and expect others to give them the attention they want. The addiction to the site has led its users towards a path where it is pleasant to have others “like” what we post. Even though the merely action of pressing the button takes away the essence of writing something meaningful or expressing what we really feel about that certain thought or picture we “liked” in the first place. In a way, Facebook minimizes the work we have to do because by pressing one button, we sometimes feel like our “duty” has been met. Also, the creators of the site try to keep it positive by only having the thumbs up and not the thumbs down button. This serves the purpose of providing a “rewarding” atmosphere, since those who take social networking very seriously can feel discouraged or develop lower self-esteem if someone dislikes what they post.

Michael Millard said...

Facebook exemplifies the level to which our society is shallow. It is a short bio about someone in which the most useful information provided is the individual's appearance. The text sections in the about me are rarely used correctly and therefore provide little information about the individual in question. Regardless it is the most popular social networking site to date. Some say the culture play into the technology but a lot of times the technology has a greater influence over the culture. Facebook has become the norm and the shallow nature of facebook will surely play into the culture of especially the younger and more impressionable users.